In the past two weeks, people have found this blog via some search terms that I’d like to respond to.
It is no secret that I am male-identified (though loosely and only sometimes), or that I have recently begun identifying as demisexual. I am also personally acquainted with many demisexual people, both online and offline, some of whom are men.
“why gender non binary does not exist”
I assure you that non-binary experiences of gender do exist. I know because I have a non-binary experience of gender, as a person who goes between feeling loosely male and feeling completely without gender. Experiences of gender that do not fit into the Western European gender binary have existed for centuries. You can’t say that non-binary gender does not exist without arguing that non-binary people are not having the experiences of gender that they’re very clearly having.
“heteroromantic asexual impossible”
I was unaware that people were arguing that heteroromantic asexuals didn’t exist, given that it’s way more common for me to encounter people who think that asexuals can’t be anything but heteroromantic.
“demisexuality is not an orientation”
Given that the term sexual orientation as I understand it refers to the set of persons to whom a person experiences sexual attraction, and that to be demisexual is to only experience sexual attraction to the set of people with whom the person has developed emotional bonds, demisexuality very much fits the bill to be a sexual orientation. That’s all there is to it.